What a Stupid Comment Actually Taught Me About Strengths

What a Stupid Comment Actually Taught Me About Strengths

I did something I’m not proud of. Fortunately, Trybal has taught me to look for the lesson in everything, so I discovered something about Strengths. Here’s what happened: It’s yesterday. I’m scrolling through Instagram on a little work break, and I notice a fashion icon I follow had gotten some work done on her face. Like, work. I scroll through the comments to see if anyone commented about it. Yep. I’m not the only one thinking it. I see someone’s posted about it, so I decide that’s a good reason for me to post also. I write, “Face surgery…” About a minute later, I return to my comment to delete it, realizing it was impulsive and unkind, but I see I am already blocked from viewing her profile. I squirm inside. Uh oh. I am one of those people. A hater. I sit for a moment and feel really awful. Rosanna, get a grip. You’re a grown woman. Why would you be rude and snarky in a public forum about anyone? And then I observe it. The question. It comes subtly but powerfully. “Am  I a good person?” I know the question pretty well. I just wrote a curriculum with my colleagues that contained and explained that exact question. Stuck in the moment, I struggled with my identity and what I think about who I am. ENTER STRENGTHS. My top five Strengths are Achiever, Belief, Responsibility, Activator, Woo. In the moment I made that unnecessary comment, I can tell you my Strengths were showing up on their dark sides. My Activator was impulsive - I acted quickly without thinking. My Belief was judgmental - how superficial, I...
What Manta Rays Taught Me About My Talents

What Manta Rays Taught Me About My Talents

Last week, I was at the Mountain Film Festival in Telluride, Colorado, a celebration of indomitable spirit. I was encouraged by so many stories of people working to make a difference in the world, even if in the simplest of ways. One story was particularly touching. It was inspirational, and it was strategic. It’s the story of a small village in indonesia, Lamakera, known for many years as the global center for manta ray hunting. Scenes of heartbreaking footage of the bloodied aftermath of a hunt were shown, and I couldn’t help but be drawn into the plight of this endangered species. Mantas are hunted for various reasons, but no reason is good enough to justify its extinction. As the number of mantas evidently decreased, the head of the village, in an interview, said, “We know something is wrong, but what are we supposed to do? This is our livelihood.” What happened next was what inspired me. Rather than simply outlining the problem and condemning those creating it, the documentary filmmakers decided to become a part of the solution. The story goes on to explain the campaign to turn Lamakera into a tourist village, to teach people about the wonder of the manta ray, to turn hunting boats into touring boats. And it’s really happening. A village has flipped its industry, and the world is now better for it. I love this story because it teaches lessons about life. If we apply this idea to StrengthsFinder (one of our favorite tools!), it relates to how we use our talents. If we could change the name of StrengthsFinder, we’d call...