How to Influence Without Authority & Really Get Stuff Done

How to Influence Without Authority & Really Get Stuff Done

You’re sitting across from a colleague. They don’t report directly to you, but you need them to do something for you. Even though it’s not in their job description to respond to your requests, how can you get them to deliver what you’re asking for? Out here in the real world, projects, teams and other engagements often come with challenges where having influence is helpful (if not critical) to get projects moving or create change, so what if your job title doesn’t inherently carry any? This can be feel like a limitation when it comes to influencing others, especially those we don’t directly lead. The truth is, influencing without authority is something many of us do without realizing it. Let’s learn how you can leverage your influence more effectively, on purpose! First, it’s essential to remember that humans crave just three basic things from each other. We all want to be: Seen Heard Understood And the order matters because even if only 2 out of 3 needs are met, that’s often enough for us to form a connection and feel validation from each other. That’s also enough to lay the foundation for the influencing process. Establish a connection. The first step in the simple approach of influencing others is to ensure they feel at least two, if not all three of those vibes from you. The easiest way to do that is to be curious – depending on the project or request, you might ask what their pain points are, how you can help, what they need and aren’t getting. This will give you more information (knowledge is power),...
Create Sustainable Change: How I Redesigned My Life

Create Sustainable Change: How I Redesigned My Life

The mountain. When someone learns about my weight loss journey to shed 200lbs without surgery or pills, I always get asked “How did you know where to start or what to do to lose that much weight?” The answer is simpler than you might think. I realized that if I focused on the mountainous task of losing 200lbs that I would get completely intimidated by the big, hairy, aggressive goal I’d set for myself; I would be overwhelmed about where and how to start and sustain the changes necessary to overhaul my nutrition and lifestyle habits. So, instead of looking miles ahead at the distant, looming mountain, I chose to change my perspective. I looked straight down in front of me into the six inches of space that lay directly in front of my feet. I asked myself what kind of baby step or change I had to make FIRST. Then, I focused on that small, sustainable change or habit and integrated it (and only it) into my lifestyle. Once I felt I had that step down pat, I took the next logical, small and sustainable step towards the mountain. I kept my head down and feet moving, step by step. If I got distracted by the mountain casting its shadow onto my path, I reminded myself that the journey I opted to make would take me to the mountain and OVER it - all I had to do was keep putting one foot in front of the other. Is that the flashy, awe-inspiring answer people wanted to hear? Maybe not, but it’s what worked. Simple isn’t always “sexy”...