How to Build Abundance With an Attitude of Gratitude

How to Build Abundance With an Attitude of Gratitude

“Abundance is a state of being; it means seeing there is plenty and displaying behavior cohesive with that.” That was the first day I learned about an Abundance Mindset. Lexy, our founder, was sharing our Values at Trybal Performance. Wow, I thought. I knew the word abundance before but had never thought about it as a mindset. Lexy went on to describe how we act abundantly by: sharing resources collaborating have an attitude of gratitude & expressing appreciation regularly giving constructive feedback giving credit where credit is due, and providing solutions proactively I loved it. What I loved more than anything was the part about having an attitude of gratitude. I’ll never forget being in sixth grade and writing every day after lunch in our ‘Thank You Journals’. Our teacher taught us to write five things we were thankful for every day, and the memory has stayed with me. The discipline of sitting down and thinking about the good things in my life—the big sandwich my mom had made me for lunch, living so close to school, the play I got to act in—gave me access to feelings of gratitude on command! At that age, I’m not sure I’d ever been taught about gratitude and the wellbeing it cultivated, but it must be the reason it’s stuck with me all this time. It was my first taste of abundance. Years later, I cannot begin to express how different life is when my mindset shifts to believing there is enough to go around for all of us, that all of us can win and be happy. When there doesn’t have...
What if Gratitude could actually change your world?

What if Gratitude could actually change your world?

Let’s talk about “gratitude.” It’s quite the buzzword today isn’t it? Everyone’s capitalizing on this trendy mindset with lists and journals, and the mainstream media is overflowing with gratitude-focused articles, books and research. THIS is the kind of movement I can get behind. Makes sense, right? Take a moment to give thanks for all you do have instead of lamenting about what’s missing. It’s an uplifting message! There’s a catch though. Gratitude isn’t just “one and done.” It has to take the form of a practice or skill – and must be honed day-in and day-out. Just talking and writing lists of “thank yous” only scratches the surface of the abundance-based mindset. We need to go deeper. That’s why I believe the best gratitude practice includes feelings. Why do feelings matter? Because they’re gateways to self-awareness and attitude alignment and those are the critical building blocks for growth and development. Self-awareness is the first step in making any change we want to make, so stopping to consider how we feel about what we’re grateful for allows us to acknowledge the choice we have to see the glass half-full. During times of crisis, transition or other trauma and drama, however, thoughts of thankfulness are probably not on our radar. But, that’s when gratitude matters most. When life throws us curve balls, taking a moment to stop, breathe, think and then FEEL appreciation for something or someone in our lives makes a significant impact. Here’s the thing: it’s a CHOICE. That’s why it’s called a gratitude “practice.” Every time something bad or stressful goes down, we have a choice to feel...
How to Kill Scarcity at Work in 3 Actionable Steps

How to Kill Scarcity at Work in 3 Actionable Steps

***As originally posted on HCI.org In Part 1 of this series we introduced the concept of an Abundance Mindset and the three different types of work environments: Abundance Based, Uncivil, and Abusive. Part 2 addressed the “Why bother?” and how to start detecting scarcity thinking. In Part 3, we focused on individual based solutions, and now we are ready to move into organizational culture solutions.  Back to that Environment Spectrum.  Culture Erosion: the gradual destruction or diminution of team and/or organizational culture; typically marked by an increase in scarcity thinking, and in many cases abusive conduct. Culture Accretion: the process of growth or increase in abundance mindset, reestablishing a sustainable team or organizational culture that thrives. STEP ONE: Assessment Where does your organization fall on the spectrum? Understanding where you’re starting is extremely important because identifying the problems informs your solutions. Is it one or two teams you’re noticing concerning trends in, or is it organization wide? One or two teams could just be a lack of leadership training, resources or effective communication. Organization wide means there is clearly a cultural problem, and you probably need external resources to help. Be honest. Remove ego. Most people would like to think they work in an Abundance Environment. In my experience, that typically isn’t the case. The potential may be there, though there are a few key pieces missing. Here are some things to consider: Can 90% of the organization’s employees (including me) repeat the company values AND can provide examples of behaviors that model them? Do we have an anti-abusive conduct policy? Would 90% of our employees say they are...
Overcoming Scarcity Mentality to Build a Safe & Healthy Workplace

Overcoming Scarcity Mentality to Build a Safe & Healthy Workplace

**As originally published on HCI.org In Part 1 of this series we introduced the concept of an Abundance Mindset and the three different types of work environments: Abundance Based, Uncivil, and Abusive. Part 2 addressed the “Why bother?” and how to start detecting scarcity thinking. In Part 3, I want to focus on the solution piece of all this; What can YOU do right now to affect positive change around you? We’ll focus on individual based solutions here, and move into organizational culture solutions in Part 4. Overcoming Scarcity Mentality. From stress behaviors to Abusive Conduct, there are a million and one ways Scarcity mentality and Deficit thinking can creep in and start to dominate. Unlike Abundance practices, Scarcity behavior seems inherently natural. In the past, negative tendencies of society have been attributed to “human nature”. It’s just human nature to be defensive and/or aggressive. In a lot of ways, that is true. We’ve all heard talk of our lizard brains; the primitive part of our brains similar in concept and capability to that of an actual lizard’s brain. This is the part of our brain that controls our instinct to freeze, fight or flee. As fortunate as this is in actual life or death situations, it can cause some huge problems in situations that really require our thinking brain to take charge. So, while it’s natural to want to protect ourselves when we feel our livelihood (job, reputation etc.) is in danger, we have a higher functioning capability that has the power to override these instincts. In other words, calling it “human nature” is just a scapegoat for...
How To Create A Great Day

How To Create A Great Day

The first time I read our founder’s email salute, I smiled. If you’ve ever received an email from Lexy, she signs off with, “Create a great day”. I’ve never seen someone sign off like that, and I like it. Instead of telling you to Have a great day, Lexy nudges you to believe what we believe at Trybal: You have the power to affect the quality of your day. and the universe is scheming in your best interest. So, how do we create a great day? Like, actually? Let’s unpack it together. Step by step. Ready? Ok, so, when you think about what’s possible for your life (career, relationships, whatever!)…when you think of how things are supposed to unfold, what your career could look like, how much you should make, what sort of pavement pounding you’ll have to do or fears you’ll have to overcome… What you’re doing is creating thoughts and ideas about what’s possible based on what you think is real and true about life. Ya? Yes. Now, what is real and true about life? How do people come to these conclusions? 1st: We all have personal tests for what is real: our feelings, our logic, our beliefs. 2nd: We have these more systemic tests for what is real: group consensus, norms, rules, laws… All made real by agreements in society. We can call it Agreement Reality. For example, in his book, Outliers, Malcolm Gladwell and researchers agree, by consensus, in accordance with rules on how to do research, that it takes 10,000 hours to become an expert at something. We read this and agree because, “Wowwww,...
Abundance Mindset: Overcoming Culture Erosion to Create Safe & Healthy Workplaces – Part 2 of 4

Abundance Mindset: Overcoming Culture Erosion to Create Safe & Healthy Workplaces – Part 2 of 4

As originally posted on HCI.org; Author Credit: Alexsys Thompson Part 2 of 4 In Part 1 of this series we introduced the concept of an Abundance Mindset and the three different types of work environments: Abundance Based, Uncivil, and Abusive. Part 2 will address the “Why bother?” and how to start detecting scarcity thinking. Why bother? Your time. On average, people spend 1/3 of their life at work. That’s a lot of time, and if you’ve had a bad day at work then you know how that can leak into the other 2/3rds of your life, FAST! It can even interrupt your sleep! I see a lack of safety at work slowly chip away at people’s spirit. Every day they lose a little bit more trust and give into Scarcity Thinking. They begin to believe their truly isn’t enough to go around, and why shouldn’t they? Proof is in the pudding, right? What if everything we tell ourselves about “the way things are” isn’t a product of unbeatable odds? In fact, it’s a product of Scarcity and Fear. Abundance based teams and cultures get their time back. The 1/3 of the time they spend at work is productive and even enjoyable. The other 2/3rds isn’t spent worrying and ruminating about the other 1/3rd. That’s why we bother. Detecting Scarcity Thinking Think about your work environment, the people you work with, your leaders, your meetings, your emails… Now, think about the last time one of those things set you off. Maybe a co-worker made an offhand comment about your work ethic, or your boss has been dismissive of your efforts...