4 Powerful Reasons Mastering Tough Conversations is Urgent

4 Powerful Reasons Mastering Tough Conversations is Urgent

Friction at work can be difficult to deal with. Lamar can’t stand to work with Jon, and Sasha feels completely disrespected by Jenna. Not to mention how frustrating the entire team finds Carol’s constant questions in meetings that always make them go over time. Enough of it, and you might find yourself in the middle of a full-blown conflict. Depending on your Strengths and skillset, ongoing conflict can become a dealbreaker. Whether it sucks the fun right out of a job you used to love, or you find yourself feeling constantly anxious and on edge when you think about work, unattended workplace conflict is toxic. The fix? It’s simple! Have a conversation.  Okay, so maybe it’s simple, and that doesn’t mean it isn’t hard. There’s a reason high-stakes communication is referred to as difficult or tough—because it is. As the saying goes, nothing worth doing is ever easy. And let me tell you, mastering tough conversations is not only worth it, it’s urgent. Why is mastering tough conversations more important than ever? According to Dynamic Signal’s 2018 State of Employee Communication and Engagement Report, “50 percent of U.S. workers are stressed out by systems that are supposed to be improving their connections with organizations. In fact, 33 percent of employees are so frustrated with poor communication that they want to quit their jobs.” Here are 4 reasons you and your organization should focus on mastering tough conversations, now. 1. Prevent unnecessary frustration and possible turnover. Poor communication within organizations leaves employees feeling disconnected, uncared for, and disenchanted. According to the same report: 77% of people feel under-valued 73% feel disengaged 57% feel disconnected...
Trybal’s Best Posts of 2017 & Changes for 2018

Trybal’s Best Posts of 2017 & Changes for 2018

Happy New Year! We hope everyone’s year has started off well. If it’s been rocky so far, don’t worry—there’s plenty of time to get back on track. 2017 was a good year for us at Trybal for many reasons. Perhaps our favorite was the launch of several new courses, including our Conversation Mechanics course, How to Talk About It. We’ve been delighted with the great feedback and the positive changes our clients are making to unleash the vibe of their Trybs. And, we’d be remiss not to mention our founder, Alexsys Thompson’s big debut! After a decade and a half of practice, workshops, and facilitation on leadership and the importance of gratitude, Alexsys designed and published The Trybal Gratitude Journal. This tool was designed with all the creativity, love, and mastery she’s known for. So far, it’s been a smashing success and has received excellent reviews, including endorsements from best-selling authors. Alexsys—we’re proud of you and can’t wait to see what you create this year! To honor 2017, here’s a round-up of some of our most popular posts for the year. If you missed any of them, we highly recommend you take a peak. We worked hard to create content that is practical and helpful for you in your every day life. First, we’d like to share some changes we’ll be making in 2018. In the first quarter of the year, we’ll be creating some awesome new resources for our clients, and hopefully some fun new content for the general public. Because of that, we’ll be reducing the number of posts we’re producing for the blog from weekly to...
[Lucrative Lookback] 2 Sure-Fire Ways to Quiet Your Inner Commentator

[Lucrative Lookback] 2 Sure-Fire Ways to Quiet Your Inner Commentator

In this Lucrative Lookback, we’ll share 2 ways you can conquer your inner commentator. You know, the inner voice that goes through all your lunch options during the mid-morning meeting. Here are 2 ways to successfully hush your inner commentator: 1. Acknowledge & Accept It. We all have an inner voice, constantly making noise inside our skulls. Sometimes it’s our best friend, telling us we look way better in that pair of shoes than we do. Other times, it’s tearing us down and acting like a bit of jerk. Almost all of the time, it’s working hard to distract us from being present during conversations, especially Tough Conversations. Of course, those are the ones we should be most present in. Most of us try to control it, getting into an argument with it. Like a toddler throwing a tantrum, the harder we try to calm it down, the louder our inner commentator gets. Instead of trying to control it, the best way to deal with our inner commentator is to acknowledge we have one, then accept it. The idea is to quiet it, not remove it. Take this moment to let your inner commentator know you’re on to it, and you’re turning the volume down. 2. Use the Skills for Being Present. There are 3 skills we can use to keep ourselves in the moment and out of our heads: 1. Inquire, 2. Paraphrase, 3. Acknowledge. When we Inquire, we’re tapping into that all important communication tool, curiosity, and asking questions we genuinely want the answer to. “How do you see it?” “What details do you have I may...
Boost Engagement and Productivity with the Trybal Gratitude Journal

Boost Engagement and Productivity with the Trybal Gratitude Journal

We are excited to introduce the Trybal Gratitude Journal, authored by our founder Alexsys Thompson. We are the catalyst for the national gratitude movement and would love for you to take part. A gratitude practice has a direct impact on the wellness of you and your teams. Lexy is quoted in the Forbes article “14 Employee Well-Being Initiatives That Will Boost Engagement And Productivity” on this very topic. 12. A Gratitude Practice Gratitude in action. I have found that this practice yields a high level of awareness that may not have existed prior. Following awareness, actions begin to align with desired outcomes. The result is that gratitude turns into personal accountability. Move it into action so others can experience it, and organizationally, both mental and physical wellness are positively impacted. – Alexsys “Lexy” Thompson, Forbes.com We are donating 100% of the profits of the journals presales to Houston Charities for our recovery from Harvey. As a bonus Lexy is offering a 30 minute video for groups of 12 or more to get inspired to start their gratitude practice. Need a micro team building activity? Here it is! BUY THE...
[Lucrative Lookback] How to Quiet Your Inner Commentator to Listen Better

[Lucrative Lookback] How to Quiet Your Inner Commentator to Listen Better

We’ve all been there… Someone starts talking, and though we may look like we’re listening, a dozen things are going through our heads, preventing us from truly listening. This can be especially true if the other person said something that sparked an emotion. Effective conversations require us to use clear, concise communication AND be present. Whether you feel the conversation is good or bad, having the inner commentator in our heads distracting us is no good. (Watch just how off-the-wall you inner commentator can be in this video!) So, what is the inner commentator? Everyone has an inner commentator. Also referred to as our inner critic, the inner commentator is simply the voice in our head that distracts us from being present. As the video demonstrates, it can be an internal battle on how to react to someone. Perhaps you’re preparing your response so it comes out just right…which might not make sense if you didn’t hear everything the other person said. No matter what your inner commentator is saying, it is distracting! The bad news about our inner commentator. Unfortunately, our inner commentator works 24/7, 7 days a week. It’s constantly chattering in your head, telling you what to think, how to feel, and sometimes to cast judgment on others. The good news about our inner commentator. Here’s the good news: we can train our inner commentator to quiet down and allow us to be present. The easiest way to do this is to Try Curiosity. Trying Curiosity means we are consciously choosing to be in inquiry about the other person’s Story. It is a state of being...