How Strengths Can Transform Communication [A Podcast with Lexy Thompson and Lisa Cummings]

How Strengths Can Transform Communication [A Podcast with Lexy Thompson and Lisa Cummings]

Strengths Focused Communication – Interview by Lisa Cummings of Lead Through Strengths Lexy Thompson of Trybal Performance had the chance to talk with Lisa Cummings on Lisa’s show “Lead Through Strengths” a few weeks ago. Strengths-focused communication is an integral part of what takes a team from being benchwarmers to starters! We are fortunate enough to include the link to hear the podcast and a few excerpts from the conversation focused on teams, gratitude and interacting with others in professional settings. http://traffic.libsyn.com/100kcareer/036-Lexy-Thompson.mp3 Podcast: Play in new window | Download About these two business leaders: Lexy’s Top 10 StrengthsFinder Talent Themes: Strategic, Connectedness, Futuristic, Intellection, Command, Input, Activator, Ideation, Self-Assurance, Relator Lisa’s Top 10 StrengthsFinder Talent Themes: Strategic, Maximizer, Positivity, Individualization, Woo, Futuristic, Focus, Learner, Communication, Significance We want to thank Lisa for being such a great interviewer and letting Lexy and cover many Strengths related topics for individuals, managers, and teams. Here are a few excerpts from the podcast: Self-Awareness leads to Confidence and Leadership for Mid-Level Managers Lexy Thompson: You and I do our work at that mid-level management often times, and that’s often a really good space… to start trying to get comfortable with what’s uncomfortable for them. Lisa Cummings: I think that’s really smart because a lot of people listening are people managers and they want to be in executive roles and I could absolutely agree that that does seem to be a distinguishing factor, someone able to go in and really work in those situations confidently. There are also a lot of listeners who are individual contributors trying to be promoted into manager roles and that is about the number one complaint...
The #1 Reason a Good Conversation Goes Bad

The #1 Reason a Good Conversation Goes Bad

Sometimes we’re so concerned with how the conversation is going to go, we forget to think about what happens after the conversation! It’s likely we’re hoping some change will come about. We want someone to stop leaving their garbage all over the break room, or for the next big launch to increase profits. We can have good conversations all day long (in fact, we sincerely hope you do!), however they won’t amount to much if that’s all there is. The #1 reason good conversations go bad is a lack of results. The garbage is still everywhere and our sales actually decreased. Whatever result we were looking for didn’t happen, and suddenly that good conversation feels like a waste of time. How do we get the results we want? Accountability. There’s that blasted word again. We keep using it, and it’s for a good reason. Accountability produces results - it’s what makes our conversations matter. There’s a reason “performance” is in our company name! How do we hold each other accountable? At the end of every conversation, it’s important to discuss who will do what, by when, who will follow up, by when and how. By answering those questions, we know what steps we are taking to move forward, when they’ll be complete, and who will help ensure it all gets done. What do we do if something unexpected happens? Life is unpredictable, and any number of things can throw a wrench into our otherwise perfect plan. Perhaps one of the most important aspects of choosing accountability is the responsibility to actively communicate obstacles. The person assigned to the task...
2 Sure-Fire Ways to Quiet Your Inner Commentator

2 Sure-Fire Ways to Quiet Your Inner Commentator

Earlier this week, we talk about what our inner commentator is, and the first step toward quieting it so we can be present during conversations. Well, we decided we should share 2 more ways you can conquer that inner voice. You know, the one going through all your lunch options during the mid-morning meeting. Here are 2 ways to successfully hush your inner commentator: 1. Acknowledge & Accept It. We all have an inner voice, constantly making noise inside our skulls. Sometimes it’s our best friend, telling us we look way better in that pair of shoes than we do. Other times, it’s tearing us down and acting like a bit of jerk. Almost all of the time, it’s working hard to distract us from being present during conversations, especially Tough Conversations. Of course, those are the ones we should be most present in. Most of us try to control it, getting into an argument with it. Like a toddler throwing a tantrum, the harder we try to calm it down, the louder our inner commentator gets. Instead of trying to control it, the best way to deal with our inner commentator is to acknowledge we have one, then accept it. The idea is to quiet it, not remove it. Take this moment to let your inner commentator know you’re on to it, and you’re turning the volume down. 2. Use the Skills for Being Present. There are 3 skills we can use to keep ourselves in the moment and out of our heads: 1. Inquire, 2. Paraphrase, 3. Acknowledge. When we Inquire, we’re tapping into that all important...
The 4 Reasons It’s Time to Let it Go

The 4 Reasons It’s Time to Let it Go

Depending on your Strengths, you may naturally feel the inclination to speak up about something that’s tough or, alternately, bottle it up inside. Based on the situation, talking about it is not always the best answer. Sometimes it’s better to simply change your behavior. As we know, actions speak louder than words. Though it can seem difficult to know when to speak up or when to let it go, we’ve created a list to make it a bit clearer! Here are 4 reasons it’s time to let it go: 1. You don’t have a purpose that works. Lacking a mutually beneficial purpose when you choose to have a conversation is a sure-fire way to further tensions. Before you decide to speak up, ask yourself, “Why do I want to talk about it? What outcome am I hoping for? Will the other person see the benefit of this conversation for themselves or the relationship?” If you can’t answer those questions, you probably don’t have a purpose that works. 2. You’re trying to change the other person. We can’t change others. The only person we can change is ourselves! If your sole purpose for talking about it is changing the other person, you might want to reconsider. 3. You just want to tell the other person off. Telling people off doesn’t work in the long run. Sometimes you want to say exactly what you’re thinking because it feels good to let off some steam; however, it only hurts the future of the relationship when you’re reckless with your words. 4. You aren’t considering timing. When we have something important to say,...
How to Let it Go When it’s Not Working and Keep Your Sanity

How to Let it Go When it’s Not Working and Keep Your Sanity

You’ve tried everything you can think of, and still it’s not working. You’ve had ten different conversations ten different ways and the results are the same. It may be that it’s time to let it go. Let it go? Is that even an option? Yes, it is! Sometimes, despite our very best efforts through several Tough Conversations with the same person, nothing changes. The truth is, you can’t force the other person to want to invest in the relationship or work things out. It might be time to move one. Knowing how to handle not having a Tough Conversation with skill and grace is at the heart of letting go. Where do you start? The best place to start is with the Liberating Truths. These are truths about Tough Conversations we often forget or are unaware of. These truths are the key to letting go. 1. It’s my responsibility to do my best and nothing else. The best we can do is try, even if our inner voice tells us it isn’t enough. If we’ve given our best over and over and are beginning to experience less well-being from unfulfilled efforts, it may be time to let go. 2. They have limitations, too. Sometimes the other person’s behavior leads us to feel we’re not being heard or important enough. They are limited (human) and may not have the capacity to show us otherwise, at least not right now. 3. This conflict is not who I am. It can happen that we don’t want to resolve a conflict because it will alter our identity. Too often we define ourselves in...