[Lucrative Lookback] 2 Sure-Fire Ways to Quiet Your Inner Commentator

[Lucrative Lookback] 2 Sure-Fire Ways to Quiet Your Inner Commentator

In this Lucrative Lookback, we’ll share 2 ways you can conquer your inner commentator. You know, the inner voice that goes through all your lunch options during the mid-morning meeting. Here are 2 ways to successfully hush your inner commentator: 1. Acknowledge & Accept It. We all have an inner voice, constantly making noise inside our skulls. Sometimes it’s our best friend, telling us we look way better in that pair of shoes than we do. Other times, it’s tearing us down and acting like a bit of jerk. Almost all of the time, it’s working hard to distract us from being present during conversations, especially Tough Conversations. Of course, those are the ones we should be most present in. Most of us try to control it, getting into an argument with it. Like a toddler throwing a tantrum, the harder we try to calm it down, the louder our inner commentator gets. Instead of trying to control it, the best way to deal with our inner commentator is to acknowledge we have one, then accept it. The idea is to quiet it, not remove it. Take this moment to let your inner commentator know you’re on to it, and you’re turning the volume down. 2. Use the Skills for Being Present. There are 3 skills we can use to keep ourselves in the moment and out of our heads: 1. Inquire, 2. Paraphrase, 3. Acknowledge. When we Inquire, we’re tapping into that all important communication tool, curiosity, and asking questions we genuinely want the answer to. “How do you see it?” “What details do you have I may...
Boost Engagement and Productivity with the Trybal Gratitude Journal

Boost Engagement and Productivity with the Trybal Gratitude Journal

We are excited to introduce the Trybal Gratitude Journal, authored by our founder Alexsys Thompson. We are the catalyst for the national gratitude movement and would love for you to take part. A gratitude practice has a direct impact on the wellness of you and your teams. Lexy is quoted in the Forbes article “14 Employee Well-Being Initiatives That Will Boost Engagement And Productivity” on this very topic. 12. A Gratitude Practice Gratitude in action. I have found that this practice yields a high level of awareness that may not have existed prior. Following awareness, actions begin to align with desired outcomes. The result is that gratitude turns into personal accountability. Move it into action so others can experience it, and organizationally, both mental and physical wellness are positively impacted. – Alexsys “Lexy” Thompson, Forbes.com We are donating 100% of the profits of the journals presales to Houston Charities for our recovery from Harvey. As a bonus Lexy is offering a 30 minute video for groups of 12 or more to get inspired to start their gratitude practice. Need a micro team building activity? Here it is! BUY THE...
[Lucrative Lookback] How to Quiet Your Inner Commentator to Listen Better

[Lucrative Lookback] How to Quiet Your Inner Commentator to Listen Better

We’ve all been there… Someone starts talking, and though we may look like we’re listening, a dozen things are going through our heads, preventing us from truly listening. This can be especially true if the other person said something that sparked an emotion. Effective conversations require us to use clear, concise communication AND be present. Whether you feel the conversation is good or bad, having the inner commentator in our heads distracting us is no good. (Watch just how off-the-wall you inner commentator can be in this video!) So, what is the inner commentator? Everyone has an inner commentator. Also referred to as our inner critic, the inner commentator is simply the voice in our head that distracts us from being present. As the video demonstrates, it can be an internal battle on how to react to someone. Perhaps you’re preparing your response so it comes out just right…which might not make sense if you didn’t hear everything the other person said. No matter what your inner commentator is saying, it is distracting! The bad news about our inner commentator. Unfortunately, our inner commentator works 24/7, 7 days a week. It’s constantly chattering in your head, telling you what to think, how to feel, and sometimes to cast judgment on others. The good news about our inner commentator. Here’s the good news: we can train our inner commentator to quiet down and allow us to be present. The easiest way to do this is to Try Curiosity. Trying Curiosity means we are consciously choosing to be in inquiry about the other person’s Story. It is a state of being...
How Strengths Can Transform Communication [A Podcast with Lexy Thompson and Lisa Cummings]

How Strengths Can Transform Communication [A Podcast with Lexy Thompson and Lisa Cummings]

Strengths Focused Communication – Interview by Lisa Cummings of Lead Through Strengths Lexy Thompson of Trybal Performance had the chance to talk with Lisa Cummings on Lisa’s show “Lead Through Strengths” a few weeks ago. Strengths-focused communication is an integral part of what takes a team from being benchwarmers to starters! We are fortunate enough to include the link to hear the podcast and a few excerpts from the conversation focused on teams, gratitude and interacting with others in professional settings. http://traffic.libsyn.com/100kcareer/036-Lexy-Thompson.mp3 Podcast: Play in new window | Download About these two business leaders: Lexy’s Top 10 StrengthsFinder Talent Themes: Strategic, Connectedness, Futuristic, Intellection, Command, Input, Activator, Ideation, Self-Assurance, Relator Lisa’s Top 10 StrengthsFinder Talent Themes: Strategic, Maximizer, Positivity, Individualization, Woo, Futuristic, Focus, Learner, Communication, Significance We want to thank Lisa for being such a great interviewer and letting Lexy and cover many Strengths related topics for individuals, managers, and teams. Here are a few excerpts from the podcast: Self-Awareness leads to Confidence and Leadership for Mid-Level Managers Lexy Thompson: You and I do our work at that mid-level management often times, and that’s often a really good space… to start trying to get comfortable with what’s uncomfortable for them. Lisa Cummings: I think that’s really smart because a lot of people listening are people managers and they want to be in executive roles and I could absolutely agree that that does seem to be a distinguishing factor, someone able to go in and really work in those situations confidently. There are also a lot of listeners who are individual contributors trying to be promoted into manager roles and that is about the number one complaint...
The #1 Reason a Good Conversation Goes Bad

The #1 Reason a Good Conversation Goes Bad

Sometimes we’re so concerned with how the conversation is going to go, we forget to think about what happens after the conversation! It’s likely we’re hoping some change will come about. We want someone to stop leaving their garbage all over the break room, or for the next big launch to increase profits. We can have good conversations all day long (in fact, we sincerely hope you do!), however they won’t amount to much if that’s all there is. The #1 reason good conversations go bad is a lack of results. The garbage is still everywhere and our sales actually decreased. Whatever result we were looking for didn’t happen, and suddenly that good conversation feels like a waste of time. How do we get the results we want? Accountability. There’s that blasted word again. We keep using it, and it’s for a good reason. Accountability produces results - it’s what makes our conversations matter. There’s a reason “performance” is in our company name! How do we hold each other accountable? At the end of every conversation, it’s important to discuss who will do what, by when, who will follow up, by when and how. By answering those questions, we know what steps we are taking to move forward, when they’ll be complete, and who will help ensure it all gets done. What do we do if something unexpected happens? Life is unpredictable, and any number of things can throw a wrench into our otherwise perfect plan. Perhaps one of the most important aspects of choosing accountability is the responsibility to actively communicate obstacles. The person assigned to the task...