How to Build Trust With Coworkers Using StrengthsFinder

How to Build Trust With Coworkers Using StrengthsFinder

Someone once said, “Trust is like oxygen – you only notice it when it’s not there.” It’s almost like an invisible foundation, where without it, everything falls apart. The problem with trust is it’s often hard to understand. It’s like it’s there or it’s not. But, what if it’s actually not all that ambiguous? What if there is more of a science to trust than we know to explore? If we spend so much time learning about our Strengths and how to have Tough Conversations, where does Trust come into play if it’s so important? Let’s start with Strengths. At Trybal, we’re huge fans of StrengthsFinder. If you’ve worked with us, we’ve likely taken you and the folks at your organization through a StrengthsFinder workshop and some one-on-one coaching. What tends to be pretty fun for people is when we reveal the concept of Dark Side Labels with our infamous Darth Vader slide on our PowerPoint deck. We teach people that everyone has Dark Sides and that we can talk about them with levity. Rather than attacking who someone is in their identity, we explain that the flip-side of the coin of what’s truly extraordinary about you is where you find your Dark Sides. Now, when it comes to trust, someone’s common Dark Sides or simple lack of Strength in a certain area may negatively impact any of the four cores of trust, as defined by Stephen M. R. Covey in his best-selling book, The Speed of Trust. The four cores are: Integrity Intent Capabilities, and Results If your Adaptability Strength has you go with the flow a little...
How to Build Abundance With an Attitude of Gratitude

How to Build Abundance With an Attitude of Gratitude

“Abundance is a state of being; it means seeing there is plenty and displaying behavior cohesive with that.” That was the first day I learned about an Abundance Mindset. Lexy, our founder, was sharing our Values at Trybal Performance. Wow, I thought. I knew the word abundance before but had never thought about it as a mindset. Lexy went on to describe how we act abundantly by: sharing resources collaborating have an attitude of gratitude & expressing appreciation regularly giving constructive feedback giving credit where credit is due, and providing solutions proactively I loved it. What I loved more than anything was the part about having an attitude of gratitude. I’ll never forget being in sixth grade and writing every day after lunch in our ‘Thank You Journals’. Our teacher taught us to write five things we were thankful for every day, and the memory has stayed with me. The discipline of sitting down and thinking about the good things in my life—the big sandwich my mom had made me for lunch, living so close to school, the play I got to act in—gave me access to feelings of gratitude on command! At that age, I’m not sure I’d ever been taught about gratitude and the wellbeing it cultivated, but it must be the reason it’s stuck with me all this time. It was my first taste of abundance. Years later, I cannot begin to express how different life is when my mindset shifts to believing there is enough to go around for all of us, that all of us can win and be happy. When there doesn’t have...
5 Ways to Prevent Workplace Bullying

5 Ways to Prevent Workplace Bullying

Workplace bullying is more common than we think. Research by Dr. Judy Blando shows that almost 75% of the people she surveyed had experienced or witnessed it. So, what are we to do? Here are 5 things you can do today to create more awareness around workplace bullying and decrease its power in your workplace. 1) Know what bullying behavior ‘looks’ like. By being able to identify the traits of someone exhibiting bullying behavior, you can anticipate potential problems. Here are the general characteristics:     Seek disproportionate transfers from unit     Over-utilize time off, high absenteeism     Use a little bit of fear to motivate staff     Exclude others socially     Force staff to work ‘to specs’ and nothing more     Unaware of dissenting voices in work situations that need improvement     Feel that meetings are a waste of time 2) Know what someone being targeted looks like. By being able to identify those who may potentially be targeted for bullying, you can also anticipate potential problems. Considering the fact that those being bullied often don’t cry for help, you may be able to step in to make the difference. Here are the general characteristics: Independent More competent Well liked Ethical and honest Not political Believers in a benevolent world Cooperative collaborators 3) Create and/or clarify company values and behaviors. If you do not have clearly defined values and behaviors for your company, your cultures is not clear. By making clear what is okay and not okay, and having consequences for both, you will be less likely to see people exhibiting behavior that is toxic. 4) Create a Workplace Bullying Policy. If you create...
The Difference Between Knowing Your Strengths & Using Them

The Difference Between Knowing Your Strengths & Using Them

Knowing Strengths. The other day, a client wrote to me to let me know, “I had my sister take the StrengthsFinder assessment! Guess what, we have three Strengths that are the same! We loved chatting about it, and after I hung up the phone with her it made me miss her even more.” She has also had her husband take the StrengthsFinder assessment and was thrilled by her discussion and learnings with him. This is what I call an enthusiast! Someone who experiences something they’ve seen impact their entire lives, so it only makes sense to them to share it with those who are important to them. Committing to Strengths. When we choose to be enthusiasts of StrengthsFinder, which is what we call Strengths Guides over here at Trybal, there are three significant contributions we’re deciding to make to the lives of those around us: 1. We’re choosing to see their Strengths.  A lot of times, we can sort of feel when someone is in the zone. We see they’re feeling good, that they’re being productive, and that those around them are being positively impacted. Most of the time, this is the combination of all their Strengths, synergizing in perfect harmony. When we choose to specifically discover someone’s Strengths, we can make sense of why certain moments are so empowering for them. We can peel back the layers, discover the intricacies, and create new moments that can also be very empowering for them. We’re intentional. 2. We’re figuring out how we work best together.  Not only does becoming very intentional about someone else’s Strengths serve them immensely, but figuring...
3 Ways to Clean Up Your Mess When You Say the Wrong Thing   

3 Ways to Clean Up Your Mess When You Say the Wrong Thing  

Being human means being imperfect. You’re going to make mistakes, and you’re going to say the wrong thing. Even if you do, everything is still, as Marie Forleo says, “FIGUREOUTABLE”! So what do we do when we’ve said the wrong thing and fear we’ve hurt a relationship? Here are 3 ways to clean up your mess when you’ve said the wrong thing: 1. Acknowledge the impact. Whatever you said or did, regardless of what your intention was, had an impact on the other person, and that impact is negative. Acknowledge the impact. Ask more about it so you understand it in full. 2. Apologize. There is nothing like a straightforward apology without any excuses attached to it. “I’m sorry, but…” doesn’t work. It’s justifying. Neither does, “I’m sorry you’re feeling hurt.” It’s removing responsibility from your shoulders. Look them in the eyes, perhaps pause for a second so they know what you’re about to say is serious, and say, “I’m sorry I…” and leave it at that. 3. Try again. When we say the wrong thing at Trybal, we call it an Etch-A-Sketch Moment. It’s when something doesn’t come out quite right, or we forget to employ an important skill to having an effective conversation. The best thing to do when we’re having an Etch-a-Sketch Moment is to acknowledge it and then request a do-over (the same way you shake up an Etch-A-Sketch and start over). This metaphor illustrates the fact that we don’t have to be perfect, that we can try again. Most people will happily grant you a do-over when they see your heart is earnest. Progress...