Trybal’s Best Posts of 2017 & Changes for 2018

Trybal’s Best Posts of 2017 & Changes for 2018

Happy New Year! We hope everyone’s year has started off well. If it’s been rocky so far, don’t worry—there’s plenty of time to get back on track. 2017 was a good year for us at Trybal for many reasons. Perhaps our favorite was the launch of several new courses, including our Conversation Mechanics course, How to Talk About It. We’ve been delighted with the great feedback and the positive changes our clients are making to unleash the vibe of their Trybs. And, we’d be remiss not to mention our founder, Alexsys Thompson’s big debut! After a decade and a half of practice, workshops, and facilitation on leadership and the importance of gratitude, Alexsys designed and published The Trybal Gratitude Journal. This tool was designed with all the creativity, love, and mastery she’s known for. So far, it’s been a smashing success and has received excellent reviews, including endorsements from best-selling authors. Alexsys—we’re proud of you and can’t wait to see what you create this year! To honor 2017, here’s a round-up of some of our most popular posts for the year. If you missed any of them, we highly recommend you take a peak. We worked hard to create content that is practical and helpful for you in your every day life. First, we’d like to share some changes we’ll be making in 2018. In the first quarter of the year, we’ll be creating some awesome new resources for our clients, and hopefully some fun new content for the general public. Because of that, we’ll be reducing the number of posts we’re producing for the blog from weekly to...
The #1 Thing Sabotaging Your Conversations & How to Fix It

The #1 Thing Sabotaging Your Conversations & How to Fix It

What are identity concerns? Identity concerns are the internal questions that arise and make us feel attacked when faced with tough conversations. We race through all that’s going on around us, all we can remember about the situation being discussed, the data points we have about the person talking with us, and perhaps most important all the questions we have about ourselves. Identity concerns look like the following: Why are they saying this to me? What do they think of me? What do others think of me? What are they NOT saying? Am I good enough? Am I worthy of this relationship, this job, this opportunity? Am I capable? As the questions swirl in our head, anxiety grows, and we began to move along the spectrum of fight or flight. Our body tenses and emotions take over. Our ability to hold a quality conversation diminishes as we get lost in our stories. These thoughts complicate the situation and inhibit our ability to be truly present and engaged in the conversation at hand. We introduce dynamics that cloud our judgement and prevent moving the conversation toward resolution and the outcome we truly want. Dealing with our identity concerns helps us get back in conversation and keep communication flowing.  It helps us move from a place of blame and judgement to contribution and mutual purpose. Start by naming your identity concerns. What questions or concerns about yourself are popping up most and generating emotions which are in the way of dialogue? Look for patterns:  Is there a recurring trigger that generates the concerns? What personal filters are you applying to how...
How to Build Trust With Coworkers Using StrengthsFinder

How to Build Trust With Coworkers Using StrengthsFinder

Someone once said, “Trust is like oxygen – you only notice it when it’s not there.” It’s almost like an invisible foundation, where without it, everything falls apart. The problem with trust is it’s often hard to understand. It’s like it’s there or it’s not. But, what if it’s actually not all that ambiguous? What if there is more of a science to trust than we know to explore? If we spend so much time learning about our Strengths and how to have Tough Conversations, where does Trust come into play if it’s so important? Let’s start with Strengths. At Trybal, we’re huge fans of StrengthsFinder. If you’ve worked with us, we’ve likely taken you and the folks at your organization through a StrengthsFinder workshop and some one-on-one coaching. What tends to be pretty fun for people is when we reveal the concept of Dark Side Labels with our infamous Darth Vader slide on our PowerPoint deck. We teach people that everyone has Dark Sides and that we can talk about them with levity. Rather than attacking who someone is in their identity, we explain that the flip-side of the coin of what’s truly extraordinary about you is where you find your Dark Sides. Now, when it comes to trust, someone’s common Dark Sides or simple lack of Strength in a certain area may negatively impact any of the four cores of trust, as defined by Stephen M. R. Covey in his best-selling book, The Speed of Trust. The four cores are: Integrity Intent Capabilities, and Results If your Adaptability Strength has you go with the flow a little...